Money and Suicide: When “Fake it until you make it” goes too far

This blog post is part of the 4th Annual Suicide Prevention Awareness Month blog tour. If you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741

It doesn’t come as a big surprise that there’s a link between struggling with money and struggling with mental health. Depression, especially clinical depression, causes many missed days at work. But if you do manage to go into work, you face mental check-outs. You can’t focus, so you’re not productive.  

Couple this with having more bills than money in the bank, not only is this stressful but also it’s demoralizing. This is especially true when you are constantly surrounded by or reading about people who have become millionaires in their 20s or 30s, and then they retired. 

(It’s called the FIRE Movement. You can read more about it here)

When you’re an entrepreneur and a business owner, you feel even more of an obligation to live up to the hype. You may have to impress and capture the interest of investors. You may have employees relying on you. You may have a small team of independent contractors helping you do more than you normally would in your “technically” one-person shop. 

Now imagine you have a family who relies on you. You have to pay for two mortgages, childcare expenses, and medical expenses. The debt just keeps accumulating. You’re one financial crisis, one lost client gig away from ruin.  

What’s really going on behind our professional smiles and firm handshakes?

Everything inside you wants to cry out & tell someone that you are struggling, but you can’t because you are trying to save face. You’re embracing that tired entrepreneurial cliche, “Fake it until you make it.”

All this is, is a recipe for Passive Suicidal Ideation. It’s the desire to die. It’s not accompanied by a plan to end your life. But the thoughts are real and intense. And they can lead to Active Suicidal Ideation with an actual plan to end your life if you don’t take them seriously. 

According to Money and Mental Health Policy Institute, if you’ve had a “major financial crisis” within the past six months, (which can happen quite frequently as an entrepreneur) you are nearly eight times more likely to experience suicidal thoughts. And while you might never intend to act on those thoughts, it can and has happened. On the flip side of that, common symptoms of mental health problems, such as increased impulsivity and memory problems, can make it harder to keep on top of financial management. Impulsivity is also a trait often attributed to entrepreneurs

One of the main reasons I was motivated to write my book, “Success to Die for” is that I wanted to advocate for mental wellness amongst business leaders to prevent entrepreneur suicides. Whenever I thought about business owners, CEOs, and entrepreneurs I will be the 1st to admit I assumed they were “go-getters,” “super strong,” “ultra productive,” and “has it all together.” That was until I became a business owner myself that I quickly learned whatever load you’re carrying around in your life comes right along with you into whatever business venture you’re embarking on in some form or another. And that includes mental health issues. 

How can we Be The Change…for real?

Too many of us are suffering in silence, faking as if everything is awesome. It’s time for leaders to stand up and have real conversations about mental health for suicide prevention. And these conversations need to take place more than once a month.

Now I pose some questions to you: how can you help support suicide prevention? How can you overcome Suicidal Ideation? How can you help someone you know overcome Suicidal Ideation? 

Here’s a few suggestions:

1) Take mental health first aid to know the signs, so you can assist a loved one in need. 

2) Walk to fight suicide and raise funds for more research.

3) Join an online mental health peer support community like Love Yourself Love Your Business.  

4) Maybe most important of all: talk to someone you see struggling. Reach out to someone when you are struggling. You’d be amazed how much a simple conversation might help. Not sure how to reach out? Learn more by clicking here.

 

Until Next Time…Peace!

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Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring: Lynette Davis

The Series Finale of the Be The Change Interview Series

Featuring: Lynette Davis, Mental Health Advocate and Nonprofit Founder

Here’s the direct link to the recording on YouTube: https://youtu.be/UOG8Nr3bn8Y

Flashback to the very first video of the Be The Change interview series: http://lynettedavis.com/2014/07/30/be-the-change-2014/ 

About

Lynette Davis is a mental health advocate and peer support specialist trained by NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) and in Mental Health First Aid. She is the author of “Success To Die For”, blogger, speaker and the founding Executive Director of Love Yourself Love Your Business, Inc. a mental health peer-support community for small business owners and entrepreneurs.

Visit our website: http://loveselflovebiz.com/ for additional information and resources.

How You Can Help

Support Love Yourself Love Your Business with seed funding so we can expand our projects to provide low-cost to free services for small business owners and aspiring young entrepreneurs dealing with mental health issues. 

Resources mentioned

Lynette’s book “Success To Die For” 

PowerMatch: https://www.powermatchonline.com/

Eat, Play, Love Monthly Meetup

The League of Extraordinary Love Agents (a private mental health support community for business leaders) https://www.facebook.com/groups/leagueofloveagents 

“There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don’t expect you to save the world I do think it’s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.”

Nikki Giovanni

Until Next Time…Peace!

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Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring: Sabrina Umstead Smith







The 2018 Be The Change Interview Series

Week 3 – Featuring: Sabrina Umstead Smith, Grief Specialist and Advocate for Special Needs Families

Here’s the direct link to the recording on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7eUDATvTl3Y

About

Sabrina is the author of Gratefully Disappointed – Learn Through Forgiveness her inspirational and encouraging memoir. Sabrina shares her journey to remind us no matter what we experience there is a lesson for us to share. Sabrina is the creator of Forgive4U, a program that defines the six essential steps to overcome emotional roadblocks. She coaches clients one-on-one and spreads the Forgive4U principles through professional speaking engagements. Sabrina and her husband Roosevelt (Rosy) founded, Erick’s Place, a non-profit organization named after her son, a special needs child, who passed away at the age of 3. She is also a contributing author to two books: Fearfully & Wonderfully Made and; the Amazon Best Seller, Pathways to Vibrant Health and Well-Being.

Visit Sabrina’s website: www.gratefullydisappointed.com for additional information and resources.

How You Can Help

Support Erick’s Place and help chronically ill children as well as the hospitals, facilities and people who care for them get the resources they need.

Resources mentioned

Sabrina’s other book mentioned: Pathways to Vibrant Health & Well-Being

 

Related Posts

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring: Dior Vargas

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring: Autumn Tompkins

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring: Faith Waringa Odhiambo

 

Until Next Time…Peace!

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Let’s Talk About Minority Mental Health With Every Day #DayInTheLife Reflections







For the month of July, I wanted to raise awareness around National Minority Mental Health Awareness month. Last year, I did an interview with my resident mental health pro,  Dr. Angela Clack. Amongst other things we discussed, she told us about the origins of the awareness month. You can watch our interview here. And check out her new book on narratives from women of color talking about trauma and depression. 

Since I will be doing interviews all next month, I decided that I wanted to do a campaign just sharing my random thoughts about mental health throughout this month. I wanted to share a day in the life of someone with lived experience, aka a peer advocate. I wanted to raise awareness about some of the ways I’ve experienced mental health prevention, treatment, and ongoing maintenance as an African American woman. I invited other POCs in my social network to join me in creating awareness by sharing their stories, experiences, resources, etc. about mental health for this particular campaign.

Why do this? Because the more people talk about mental health in our communities, the more it becomes a commonplace topic. This is how we fight the stigma. And when stigma is obliterated, people don’t feel ashamed to seek help. If more people seek help and find that there isn’t equal access to care, we come together and create demand that needs to be supplied. Ya dig?

The reason this is so important is because there are many disparities in seeking and getting mental health treatment as a minority in the U.S..  Heck, even a quick Google search led me to organizations that are NOT founded by or led by the people this awareness month was made for, when of course they exist. I’ve made plenty of complaints about the lack of minorities having a seat at the table, but I won’t go there right now, (another topic for another day). So even our own voices and wisdom aren’t being centered, but rather tokenized to fit inside a paradigm. Which further proves we still have a ways to go with dismantling a broken healthcare system. But first, we need to create awareness. And many times that awareness starts at home within our own selves, conversations amongst each other, with our family members, with our friends, our co-workers, our spiritual community leaders and members and anyone else in our network who still doesn’t get it. There are too many people who still deny that mental health disorders are very real, and we cannot afford to keep sweeping them, and how they affect our lives either directly or indirectly, under the rug. It hurts us, it tears apart our families, it breaks down and disconnects our communities.

So to offset that, we share. We share our truths, we share our resources. We encourage one another to find strength, hope, and healing.

Below you’ll find a few captured moments from several awareness campaigns this month…

My Announcement Post

 

 

 

 

From Organizations

No More Martyrs hosted their annual Minority Mental Health Awareness Summit 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Henry Health launched their #reclaimourstrength campaign 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From My Network

H.M. (like myself) fully appreciates Mystic Soul Project and what their existence means to their mental health. #support 

 

 

 

 

Trudean talks about issues and raises donations every year to support her local community check our her current fundraiser.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Karen shares about two of my loves, mental health and the arts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Vannessa shares about mental health in the media.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From Moi

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Related Posts

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring: Dior Vargas

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring: Emily Wu Truong

The Necessity of Self-Care for Black Women Making History Everyday with Dr. Kesha Moore

 

Until Next Time…Peace, Love, and Wellness!

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On Mental Health and Spirituality Featuring: Dr. Ruby Lathon







Here’s the direct link to the recording on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qwo22rM0kG8

Around 2:12 Dr. Ruby begins talking about the connection between mind, body, and spirit.

Around 4:07 We start talking about the spiritual properties of good. And the 2nd brain “gut”. Lynette references Sisters of the Yam by bell hooks.

Around 6:00 Dr. Ruby talks about the energy and vibrations of food. Dr. Ruby talks more about the gut as a 2nd brain and how about 70% of disease starts in the gut.

Around 7:45 Dr. Ruby begins our dialogue about the spiritual aspect of food being where the food comes from, and how it is treated up until the point of which we consume it.

Around 7:56 Dr. Ruby begins to explain why she has chosen a plant-based diet.

Around 9:48 After comparing the differences in how we feel after eating certain foods, Dr. Ruby explains how taking in food with low vibrations affects you spiritually just as much physically and mentally.

Around 10:15 Dr. Ruby talks about the often forgotten meaning behind phrases such as “I put love into the food”.

Around 12:30 We talk about how spirituality shows up in daily life, including a business aspect even though we want to keep it boxed in and separate.

Around 14:35 Dr. Ruby begins talks about the gut and depression, and other connections to nutrition and mental health issues.

Around 18:40 Dr. Ruby talks more about how food affects our mood, mental acuity, how fast or slow we think.

Around 19:48 Dr. Ruby says “The healthier the food, the healthier the brain.” And talks about how we can improve mood with food.

Around 23:11 After bringing up the 90’s movie Soul Food we talk about the spiritual and mental healing practice of cooking food with love, and nurturing relationships with coming together and eating together.

Around 25:52 Dr. Ruby talks about keeping these healing traditions of family gatherings but also making it all around healthy by adjusting the menu items.

Around 30:25 Dr. Ruby talks about food as a form of resistance because we have control over what we’re putting in it.

Around 31:47 Dr. Ruby shares how you can reach out and connect with her online. She mentions her Going Vegan online program for those interested in changing their lifestyle.

About Dr. Ruby:

Dr. Ruby Lathon is a certified holistic nutritionist and inspires with a powerful story of recovering from thyroid cancer through alternative treatment focused on a whole food, plant-based diet. Dr. Lathon worked as a researcher and an award-winning engineer, and now teaches others how to re-engineer their health and live disease free.

Dr. Lathon, a graduate of the University of Alabama, served as Nutrition Policy Manager at the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, where she developed and led a national grassroots campaign to advocate legislation for more healthful, plant-based meal options in the National School Lunch Program.

Dr. Lathon is host of The Veggie Chest with Dr. Ruby, an online, plant- based cooking show and is featured in the hit documentary, What the Health and will be featured in two upcoming documentaries. Dr. Lathon is an inspirational and sought-after speaker on motivation, natural health, healing, and plant-based nutrition. Through her organization, Roadmap to Holistic Health, Dr. Lathon hosts holistic health conferences, workshops and healthy cooking classes and provides customized nutritional consultations and coaching programs.

Learn more about Dr. Lathon at: www.RubyLathon.com
Contact her: Info@RubyLathon.com
Like her at: www.Facebook.com/TheRubyLathon
Instagram: http://instagram.com/rubylathon

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On Mental Health and Spirituality Featuring: Mineela J. Chand, M. Div., LMFT

How Mental Health, Religion, and Spirituality Are Interconnected (My Story)

Until Next Time…Peace, Love, and Wellness!

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