Activation Time: A 1/2 Year Review

activationThis is a recap of the 1st half of the year, so I tend to get long-winded. You have been warned…

About the Blog

For those of you who are new, (or returning after a hiatus) to the blog put on your seat belt, I’m about to take you for a ride. pretty much started as a recovery blog that I was encouraged to write by 2 of my former co-workers (my sister/friends) who thought it would be a healthy outlet for me as I was going through a transition. In time, I concluded that the experiences I documented were no longer just about me, but about the energy we all put out into the universe when we share pieces of ourselves via blogging and social media.

I later developed a vision for this blog which strives to Inspire Action despite fear, lack of confidence, and lack of experience; Revive Passion, despite trying to convince yourself that contentment and fulfillment belongs to everyone you bust your butt for and not yourself; and Empower the Inner Child inside, despite growing up in a society that does its best to stifle the very part of you that still believes in the power of dreams.

And now, I’ve finally written out a straight to the point mission statement, and in doing so I’m revealing my new tagline: Activate Your Inner SuperHeroine.


Moon Power! Property of

Meet ‘Moon’, my inner superheroine; she’s my nurtured and uninhibited inner child all grown up, sharing her light, and being the change.

You can read more about how I activate my inner superheroine in order to encourage and empower you to active your inner superheroine on my revamped about page.

This is the finished draft. My new header will showcase the digitized character design (with proper credits to the illustration team).



A special thanks to Shauna for the coaching and inspiration!

Alrighty then! So, I’m actually going to keep the rest pretty short as I seriously want to hear from you. Hit me up in the comment section below or on Twitter.

About Life

The theme for this year is: Choose To Dance

My word for the year is: Purpose

As I’ve shared before in previous reviews, I center most of my goals for the year around 6 areas or slices of life: Personal, Social, Physical, Spiritual, Professional, and Financial. Under each slice of life I set about 3 intentions to work on at the start of the year So my theme is in essence the vision I have for the year and the slices help me organize the steps I need to take in order to realize that vision in a balanced way.

I pretty much chucked most of the goals I set in January as they either no longer astonished me (like hire a bookkeeper) or they became somewhat muddied in clarity as to the ‘Why’ and therefore needed more TLC (trip to Kenya). So I’ll focus the rest of this blog on a few of the goals that stuck. I hired my own virtual assistant so I could focus on growing my social media management firm and in doing so I was able to bring on new teammates to help me grow the businesses of the clients we serve. I created a free toolkit for those wanting to know more about hiring a virtual assistant.Starting to have a better relationship with money. I made an investment in a long-term mentorship program. I’ve been meeting with an accountability every month. I see and feel the positive impact of both a mentor and accountability buddy.

My relationship with my mother and little sister has been better than it has ever been. I’ve been committed to a church ministry despite my ambivalence with church itself. I went on a workcation with plans for a real vacation alongside my companion aka ‘him’ in August, the 1st I’ve had since I’ve started my business almost 3 years ago.

So, that’s a quick recap of wins for year, (sprinkled with some realistic setbacks) thanks for reading to those of you who stuck around!

Again, I’d love to hear from you! What have you been up to these past 6 months?


Until next time…

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The Only Constant Is Change

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Change is…well, if you ask me it’s hard. I think we like familiar patterns, even if it means our unhappiness. If that weren’t somewhat true we wouldn’t stay at jobs we hate, we wouldn’t stay in unhealthy relationships, and we wouldn’t suppress our very essence so we could fit in with the familiarly of those around us. There are also times when we get feisty, we want the representation of said change, like yesterday, without all the hassle that comes with it. So yes, we want more, we want better, yet we resist the process.

But if we really want to push through, stay the course, reach our fullest potential-then we have to come clean with ourselves so we can move out of our own way.

What are we afraid of? Is it fear of failure or success? That we can’t measure up because we have a bad case comparison syndrome? That no one will “get us”, quirks and all?

I had a recent conversation with a colleague about the changes I wanted to make over here on and realized I was resisting the changes I’ve been wanting to make dismissing my writing here as only a hobby, as if my voice didn’t matter as much. Why?  Because here on this space I wear my heart on my sleeves, here, I’m exposing myself to critique, and if I didn’t take here to the place I really wanted to take it, I couldn’t get hurt if I failed, or if people judged me. Even though I knew, showing up to life in any state you will get judged because that’s what folk do. Funny how we know so much, will explain, and make excuses for ourselves to run from ourselves. So, after talking it out, and letting it digest some, letting all the positive seeds that my many life teachers have sown into me take root, I knew it was time to do what I have to do.

This wasn’t an overnight thing-getting to the point of ‘I will make the biggest investment I can for my own development so I can embrace my purpose’. The wonderful thing about change is that is a process. Habits don’t die so easily, and naysayers don’t go away. So you have to trust the process, act despite your fears, crawl when pressure is weighing you down, and take massive leaps instead of letting the floor fall from under you, and just know that the process works.

Until Next Time…

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Say It Out Loud

speakI’m not sure why, but I had the movie Akeelah and the Bee playing on repeat inside my head over the week. There are so many teaching moments in that movie, I’m almost embarrassed to say that I almost passed it up.

There was one particular scene, “You’ll Be A Champion” that really drove home the learning moment I experienced as an ever evolving business woman.

After reading the inspiring words of wisdom from Marianne Williamson about not being afraid of herself, and all that she was capable of, young Akeelah still struggled with being afraid to fail in front of others. She also struggled with outside influences and had a hard time admitting the deepest desires she held within her heart. It’s funny how so many of us can relate to that…

There was a point in this scene that she started to settle for good enough, (because that ruthless inner naysayer always wants to rear her ugly face at you).  So her coach, (even she had a coach) made her say out loud what she really wanted, to admit it to herself and release it out into the universe.

In the Get Clients Now program it’s referred to as the straight face test. The test is simply you declaring a goal, or your mission, or your vision, or your purpose out loud, so that it becomes real to you, so real that you feel it deep in the pit your belly until it overflows and erupts out of your very being, and you own it like you know you should.

What will you say over yourself this week, this month, this year?

“If you can’t say it, then you can’t win it, so say it.”


Flickr Credit: rick

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The Comparison Syndrome: It Will Stunt You!

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January is generally the month where people have set, are still setting, or have already broken their New Year resolutions. So we’ve gotten clever about it, and started calling them fancy names in a fit of rebellion against the norm to convince ourselves to make them work. Hey, whatever floats the boat!

Then there are some of us who take it a step further.  In wanting to make sure we at least make a true effort to turn those sand castle dreams into something concrete, we develop goals that we hope are intelligent, and plot out different methods of action we can take to accomplish said intelligent goal. And to make sure there aren’t any security breaches we grab up accountability partners, coaches, mentors, self-help books, (and the beat goes on), because who wants to end the year on Häagen-Dazs in front of the TV declaring that the next year will be their year…again.

But then, you start looking around and everyone else seems to be moving faster than you, climbing higher heights, getting clients, feeling their pipeline with leads, getting the promotion, keeping their job! But what about you?!?

Now, while I can’t answer that question in particular, I think sometimes we have to stop waiting for life to give you a hand out and go create your own luck. At the same time, I know we experience different seasons in life (although it’s an honesty you don’t always want to hear when you’re down in the dumps). So, instead, I’ll touch on one particular area that I think builds us down; it’s a set back we establish at the very moment we map our game plan for the year.

You set some goals and tell folk and while you’re sharing yours, you think maybe you’re not showing up to life in a big enough way so you adjust, chuck your own ambition away and then you’re chasing a life that wasn’t what you wanted in the first place.

So, your Best friend wants to set a big, scary hairy out of the comfort zone goal to go to the slums in India and feed orphans, your goal was to get a bucket so you can have access to that job that pays a little more so you can stop living paycheck to paycheck. You see noble in her goal, not remembering the why of your own.

This year, I started off with a group coaching program, it was an affordable program that I believe will propel me forward to my best year yet. Last year despite the affordable price, I would not have invested in it; I was in a different season, and had to set other goals.

One of the things that attracted me to the program was that it was called something I was setting out to do this year; astonish myself. And so I encourage you to do the same, Astonish Yourself!  Dream your own dreams, set and adjust goals that make sense for you, create a life that speaks to you, dance your own dance, walk in your own purpose.

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” Bruce Lee


Until next time…

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Flick Credit:  Kyle MacKenzie

Happy New Year! A Review and Some Aspirations

Happy New Year! I’m back from my blogcation and ready to jump right in!

So, I decided to switch up my review format since it’s a full year review rather than a quarter review, and I used the template I found over on the Happy Black Woman site.

Lessons Learned In 2013

What was the most valuable lesson I learned this year?

This past year, I’ve learned to trust in my abilities, to believe that I am enough, and to take everything I experience as another growth opportunity. But, if I had to summarize my most valuable lesson it would have to be this:

“Dreams come a size too big so that we can grow into them.”  – Josie Bisset

What was the best book, song and/or movie I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?

I’d have to say that Get Clients Now was my best book discovery this year. (Just click the link for the book review I did on it.)

What was the best city, state or country I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?

This year I spent more time in Philadelphia  than I ever have (and I’ve lived right across the bridge pretty much my whole life) and I really loved the city (grateful to come back home to my burb right outside it though) but seriously I love the energy, diversity, and culture of the city. From Dragon Boat races, to cultural festivals at Penn’s Landing, to museum and art gallery visits to firework shows on top of center city rooftops, to delicious cheese steaks and other yummy treats from China Town; I really enjoyed these aspects of Philly.

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What was the biggest personal milestone I reached this year? (these can be goals you reached in the areas of lifestyle & fun, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)

I might sound like a broken record here but seriously, I have to say I am really proud of the progress I made in confidence building department. I’ve always struggled with confidence, and working on building confidence was something deeply implanted in my heart.  So, in my determination to really believe in my awesomesauce, my word for 2013 was Confidence. I did public speaking engagements (I hate public speaking), sang solo in front of random strangers, started mentoring teen girls, met some amazing, (and I mean amazing) women business leaders and most importantly I stood my ground and stayed focused on my path.

There were no apologies for staying true to the woman I am growing to love more and more every time I look at her in the mirror. There was also no going back on my desire to be location-independent business owner who provides a darn good service to other location-independent business owners. This was very special part of my confidence milestone to me because it felt like everyone who I wanted so desperately to support me had decided my journey to success wasn’t fast enough for them and in their own way had written me off. A huge part of confidence building is being decisive and comfortable enough in your own skin to know what is right for you regardless of what anyone else think or feels is best for you. I mean, who knows you better than yourself?

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Melinda Emerson aka Smallbiz Lady

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Andrea Vahl aka Grandma Mary









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Women Are Gamechangers Fusion Tour Philadelphia

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Darnyelle Jervey









What professional accomplishments (at work or in my business) am I most proud of this year?

I was very proud of the progress I’ve made this past year with A & D Media.  I like how it’s transforming yet remaining committed to what I intended it to be despite pressures to go places with it I didn’t desire. I was very excited when one of the leading south jersey magazines  reached out to me for an interview on social media as it related to my fellow south jersey business owners, (I’m in the March 2013 issue). What an honor to have my 2 cents written on the same page along side men and women marketers from very well-known and respected companies.

But you know, I’d have to say the greatest accomplishment and biggest compliment I received this year was repeat business from my awesome clients. What an honor!

Looking forward towards 2014


What do I deserve more of in 2014? 

There’s a lot I could say for this one so I’ll keep it cutesy this time around and say I deserve more trips to a Massage Therapist, (why not).

What 3 personal milestones do I most want to reach in the coming year? (these can be goals in the areas of lifestyle & fun, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)

  1. Move to New apartment in a New town
  2. Self-Publish my 1st book which is a collection of poetry
  3. Trip to Kenya with my partner in Heartwork (more to come on this one)

What 3 professional accomplishments do I most want to see for myself next year? (these can be goals in the area of career & work for my job and/or business)

  1. Grow my team by partnering with 2-3 more highly-skilled virtual assistants (Which means I’ll have to have plenty of work to give them.)
  2. Accomplish my income goals for the year
  3. Create my 1st opt-in offer so I can grow my email list

What do I want to learn in 2014?

Again, I could go on and on with this so I’ll choose one thing: How to make sweet potato bread. (Ooh so good!)

What do I want to cross off of my “bucket list” in 2014?

Volunteer trip to Africa is the big one this year

Finally, My Theme for 2014

My word for 2014 is Purpose.  Now that I’ve finally created my very 1st vision board,  my path is so much clearer, (and it scares the crap out of me). So, this year is about truly walking in purpose, on purpose, and with purpose. And my theme is Choose To Dance (You know, because if I get the choice to sit it out or dance, I’m going to dance).

Enough about me! Tell me my friend, what have you been up to and where are you headed in 2014?