A few years ago, I watched a movie called The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. I didn’t read the book series, but I checked out the movie because I have been a fan of America Ferrera since Real Women Have Curves. I thought the movie was cute, as it followed the lives of 4 young women on different paths of self discovery as they held their bond of friendship while away from each other through a common denominator – the pants. I was reminded of the film when I found myself sitting at a table with 3 other women chatting and chewing at Friendly’s after a Sister to Sister fellowship.
The real fellowship of sisterhood happened after the actual event. It must have been a string of fate that pulled us together as we were all headed separate ways, but somehow ended up crossing each other’s paths and decided to continue our conversation in a safe place. Although, we were all on different paths and headed in opposite directions, we hoped we could one day come back together and bond just as we had that night.
In this circle of friends, acquaintances and strangers, I again was able to see how radiant women shine through struggles, hurts, heartaches, and pains. We were all on a mission to conquer our fears and seize the bigger picture goals in life rather than remain victims to our temporary circumstances. The best thing about love, real genuine love, is that it allows you to open up without being afraid that someone is going to hurt you. These ladies offered me a picture of love; one that I rarely come across nowadays. We all shared pieces of ourselves, and I realized how empowering it is for us to release the things of our past that we thought would hold us captive for life. It’s almost like shackles falling from your soul; releasing you from feeling that you could never be accepted once the real you is discovered.
Have you ever felt so low that you didn’t want to be in your own company? When you are in that state of mind, it’s hard to believe anyone would love you as you are. It’s not a fun place to be.
We have all, in our own rights, come a mighty long way. I hope to share more about the journeys of: the nurse by day and savvy hustler at night- new mommy plotting on a business that will allow her the privilege of bringing her child to work while still being able to cook delicious meals for her hard working hubby; the community focused, social entrepreneur, who after a massive layoff, decided to go for her doctorate degree; the newly engaged mommy who finally said enough is enough, enrolled in a specialized college to become a champion for an ignored community; and the probable serial entrepreneur who hopes to travel the world and become a motivating factor behind the rise and succession of the oppressed and marginalized, while still finding time to watch cartoons and pig out on banana splits.
Until next time…
Thank you for sharing your warm and encouraging thoughts, Lynn! Take care…
Thanks for stopping by again George. You do the same, and keep putting out great content on your blog as well.
Oh you really touched a raw nerve with me with this. I used to trust everyone and was serially abused because of it. I am married and to everyone else we are happy but I don’t have emotional security from him at all so believe me when I am almost envious of the fact you are single and enjoying life being creative in every sort of field , I was looking at your lovely apple pie today . I’m so happy we are friends and I can read your insights and feelings as most of the time i have been at rock bottom with self esteem issues and it really helps with that feeling of “I’m a failure and I hate myself feeling”, sometimes because of the guards we all have nobody talks for fear of rejection, so thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings as it is another step on my journey that gives me hope in seeing another experience these things and not myself and I alone.
Your capabilities amaze me , your compassion and direct feeling warms my heart ,thank you for your blogs they are of infinite value.
Margaret, welcome! I feel compelled to say this -You are not alone. Please, no need to be almost envious of anything for one struggle I’ve overcome there is always another I am still fighting through. I’ve come to accept that this is all apart of life even though I don’t always like it. One of the things I have learned and wished I knew when I too was married was that I never needed emotional secuirty from a spouse or anyone else for that matter. When we look outside ourselves to someone else for fulfillment our love tank will always come up empty. They will never be good enough, and we will always find something wrong with them. Change begins within. Also, one of my blog readers George Zapo, and countless others truly encouraged me,and since love spreads, I will encourage you as well….Keep Writing whether anyone is reading or not! Writing has become my best and most useful outlet and I’m glad to be able to share my amateur poetry in your group when the muse decides to show up 🙂 Thank you for your inspiring words let’s continue to encourage one another!
Simply beautiful…couldn’t have summed it up any better myself. It’s nothing like meeting other motivated individuals, who although they share a different story, you can connect and embrace it as your very own. Looking forward to part II;-)!
Welcome Keanna! Glad you decided to stop by, pull up a chair and stay awhile. I know part II will be even more exciting. I hope to update everyone on our progress, maybe even officially introduce my gal pals 😉