There’s A Glitch in The Matrix: A 1st Quarter Review


This is a life in review type post, so it gets long-winded, you have been warned…

About the Blog

For those of you who are new to Reflections of A Summer Moon here’s what I wrote regarding the mission of this blog: is a personal journey blog that strives to Inspire Action despite fear, lack of confidence, and lack of experience; Revive Passion, despite trying to convince yourself that contentment and fulfillment belongs to everyone you bust your butt for and not yourself; and Empower the Inner Child inside, despite growing up in a society that does its best to stifle the very part of you that still believes in the power of dreams. I firmly believe that when we let our inner child come out to play, we really show the world what we are really made of. This is still an unedited statement; I simply wrote what was in my heart. I don’t know if every blog post will fit into a neat category or if I can measure up to what I strive to deliver but here is my starting point and I’m happy to have you along for the ride.

Some of you have asked me about the origins of my blog name A Summer Moon I’ve been promising to do a blog post about it and that blog post will happen very soon. I can tell you this much, the name Moon has been a part of my online identity for years in some shape or form I’ve used this name to express via the written word what I never had the courage to speak out loud. When I stopped lurking and started blogging that began to shift, “Moon” very much so speaks her mind both on and offline, if you catch me on a sociable day 😉

About Life

Every year, for the past few years, I start off with a theme and word to express my intentions and focus for life which then helps me determine the goals I wish to pursue.

The theme for this year is: Choose To Dance

My word for the year is: Purpose

As I’ve shared before in previous reviews, I center most of my goals for the year around 6 areas or slices of life: Personal, Social, Physical, Spiritual, Professional, and Financial. This way of goal setting was inspired by I coaching course I discovered a few years back to be a resource for women experiencing a quarterlife crisis. Under each slice of life I set about 3 intentions to work on at the start of the year So my theme is in essence the vision I have for the year and the slices help me organize the steps I need to take in order to realize that vision in a balanced way.

This 1st quarter was well… I’ll put it like this… Have you ever had to sit at a long traffic light in bumper to bumper non-rush hour traffic? It’s not just any long light but the kind that when you finally get to the green light you realize it is glitchy and changes so quickly that only one car actually makes it through at a time (hence the long line). And because you’ve got places to go you decide you’re making it through that blasted light so you tail that one car in front of you to get through (because the light was yellow, you swear it was) only to find a ticket waiting for you in the mail a couple of weeks later…I think the 1st quarter went something like that.

Personal: I’ve made it no secret that I want to make a trip to Kenya. I connected with a sister in Heartwork Rachael K. A. and we decided to partner together to create something that would enable us to go help out our mutual sister in Heartwork, Faith, the leader of Girls Shift Africa (and so many more leaders like her). After much research, speaking with mentors, and other activists, (I even had the honor of speaking with John Haydon) we decided we had our work cut out for us.  We both have bread and butter businesses to run and we both had some personal thangs to address. For instance Rach is having a wedding ceremony everyday for the year. So, we hit the brakes on our original goal to make that trip in October and utilize Google + Hangouts to have Advisory Council meetings since we’re in about 4 different countries spread around the world. We’ve decided to work on some foundation pieces and plan some more (though if we can still make it this year that’d be awesome).

The other project in the slice is to publish my collection of poetry (I write you know). I’ve been typing my heart away on the weekends as most of my poetry sit in notebooks. I soon realized that 4 notebooks of poetry became very little after I noticed that I myself didn’t care for most of them (I did write half of them when I was like 12). I’m not sure what I want to do about this now as I don’t have as many pages of poetry. However, I still want to publish what I have. I’ll keep you posted on both these endeavors!

Social: I’ll share one of the things I’m working on with this slice. Every week I’m to make a conscious effort to speak the love language of my companion, family member, friend, acquaintance, etc. I’ll admit, I can be selfish and stubborn at times so speaking languages that aren’t my own is actually hard for me. For instance, my brother’s primary love language is physical touch. I’m not really a hugger, I’m not very ticklish, nor am I a person who likes to cuddle,and I like space-in every sense of what that word means (I’m an introvert after all). I made sure to give him a real big bear hug when he received his latest promotion as a Staff Sergeant for the US Air Force and told him I was very proud of him, he was literally shocked and told me so, (dang am I that bad little bro?).

Physical: Okay here’s the deal, for 1 ½ months I had insomnia! I do get it occasionally, but never like this. It really messed me up for this slice in January and part of February. I started experiencing lots of migraines and tension headaches but somehow I was able to function through the day and not really miss a beat with much. Eventually, after forcing myself into a routine that didn’t seem to work at 1st I finally began sleeping through the night again. I met a nice lady by the name of Erin in our mutual Astonish Yourself group coaching program. She offered me a complimentary EFT session and showed me ways to naturally work on my headaches. I don’t know if it’s a mind thing or not but the stuff works! And now that the weather is looking nicer I’m busting out my kicks and hitting the power walking trail, viva Pandora!

Environment… I wanted to move in March, (I’ve since pushed that goal deadline way back). I had an apartment lined up, a roomie, all that jazz. Everything fell a part and I mean everything. The apartment people gave our place away, the roomie had to fight for another place and had to take the leave sooner than I was ready for in order to claim what they gave her…and ugh so much more. But, a glimmer of light did shine at the end of the tunnel…it became less crowded where I currently stay and the drama that came with the crowd went with out the door with said crowd. Hopeful!

Spiritual: Good gracious I feel everything else is a reflection of what’s going on here. This year, my church made it their theme to do an intense year of prayer so I decided to participate; I centered my goal on praying with the collective and you know, make prayer a priority. Heck, why not? We have got to pray-a, we have got to pray-a to make it through the day-a Yeah so, funny thing happens when you try to really get your spiritual self and your Higher power in alignment …lots of tests and trials! Seriously, it’s enough to make you fold your arms and force yourself to be content at your current level in your spiritual walk.  But, I know that won’t do…onward and upward!

Professional: I set one main goal here which requires lots of little projects, my A-team, and tons of consistency. One of those projects was to complete my very 1st Opt-in offer to grow my list.  This translated into creating my very 1st infoproduct to address the needs of coaches, consultants, and speakers looking to grow their team with the aid of virtual assistance. I’m proud to say I did indeed finish it by the deadline. And I’m currently waiting on the design and formatting of it to get completed. I was hoping to pre-launch today, but the production isn’t complete yet, so I had to move it back a week or 2. It’s all good because I did it! I can’t wait to share it. If you’re not already a part of the Your Marketing Matters email community come on over, my VIP’s get 1st dibs!

Financial: I guess my main goal here was to gain better awareness of the state of my finances so that I could analyze and determine next steps. I have been so on the money in this area, book keeping has become a ritual again for me. I’m very much so aware of where my money is coming and going. I’m keeping way better records, and I’ve been consistently paying off my credit card debt. I think I won’t drive my accountant crazy too bad this time. Woot!

So, that’s my 1st quarter review of the year, thanks for reading to those of you who stuck around!

Also, now that I’ve worn my heart on my sleeves, I’d love to hear about you and what you’ve been up to these past 3 months.


Flickr Credit: caesararum


Happy New Year! A Review and Some Aspirations

Happy New Year! I’m back from my blogcation and ready to jump right in!

So, I decided to switch up my review format since it’s a full year review rather than a quarter review, and I used the template I found over on the Happy Black Woman site.

Lessons Learned In 2013

What was the most valuable lesson I learned this year?

This past year, I’ve learned to trust in my abilities, to believe that I am enough, and to take everything I experience as another growth opportunity. But, if I had to summarize my most valuable lesson it would have to be this:

“Dreams come a size too big so that we can grow into them.”  – Josie Bisset

What was the best book, song and/or movie I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?

I’d have to say that Get Clients Now was my best book discovery this year. (Just click the link for the book review I did on it.)

What was the best city, state or country I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?

This year I spent more time in Philadelphia  than I ever have (and I’ve lived right across the bridge pretty much my whole life) and I really loved the city (grateful to come back home to my burb right outside it though) but seriously I love the energy, diversity, and culture of the city. From Dragon Boat races, to cultural festivals at Penn’s Landing, to museum and art gallery visits to firework shows on top of center city rooftops, to delicious cheese steaks and other yummy treats from China Town; I really enjoyed these aspects of Philly.

boatrace   philly


What was the biggest personal milestone I reached this year? (these can be goals you reached in the areas of lifestyle & fun, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)

I might sound like a broken record here but seriously, I have to say I am really proud of the progress I made in confidence building department. I’ve always struggled with confidence, and working on building confidence was something deeply implanted in my heart.  So, in my determination to really believe in my awesomesauce, my word for 2013 was Confidence. I did public speaking engagements (I hate public speaking), sang solo in front of random strangers, started mentoring teen girls, met some amazing, (and I mean amazing) women business leaders and most importantly I stood my ground and stayed focused on my path.

There were no apologies for staying true to the woman I am growing to love more and more every time I look at her in the mirror. There was also no going back on my desire to be location-independent business owner who provides a darn good service to other location-independent business owners. This was very special part of my confidence milestone to me because it felt like everyone who I wanted so desperately to support me had decided my journey to success wasn’t fast enough for them and in their own way had written me off. A huge part of confidence building is being decisive and comfortable enough in your own skin to know what is right for you regardless of what anyone else think or feels is best for you. I mean, who knows you better than yourself?

Melinda Emerson Smallbiz Lady

Melinda Emerson aka Smallbiz Lady

Andrea Vahl

Andrea Vahl aka Grandma Mary









fusion tour

Women Are Gamechangers Fusion Tour Philadelphia

Darnyelle Jervey

Darnyelle Jervey









What professional accomplishments (at work or in my business) am I most proud of this year?

I was very proud of the progress I’ve made this past year with A & D Media.  I like how it’s transforming yet remaining committed to what I intended it to be despite pressures to go places with it I didn’t desire. I was very excited when one of the leading south jersey magazines  reached out to me for an interview on social media as it related to my fellow south jersey business owners, (I’m in the March 2013 issue). What an honor to have my 2 cents written on the same page along side men and women marketers from very well-known and respected companies.

But you know, I’d have to say the greatest accomplishment and biggest compliment I received this year was repeat business from my awesome clients. What an honor!

Looking forward towards 2014


What do I deserve more of in 2014? 

There’s a lot I could say for this one so I’ll keep it cutesy this time around and say I deserve more trips to a Massage Therapist, (why not).

What 3 personal milestones do I most want to reach in the coming year? (these can be goals in the areas of lifestyle & fun, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)

  1. Move to New apartment in a New town
  2. Self-Publish my 1st book which is a collection of poetry
  3. Trip to Kenya with my partner in Heartwork (more to come on this one)

What 3 professional accomplishments do I most want to see for myself next year? (these can be goals in the area of career & work for my job and/or business)

  1. Grow my team by partnering with 2-3 more highly-skilled virtual assistants (Which means I’ll have to have plenty of work to give them.)
  2. Accomplish my income goals for the year
  3. Create my 1st opt-in offer so I can grow my email list

What do I want to learn in 2014?

Again, I could go on and on with this so I’ll choose one thing: How to make sweet potato bread. (Ooh so good!)

What do I want to cross off of my “bucket list” in 2014?

Volunteer trip to Africa is the big one this year

Finally, My Theme for 2014

My word for 2014 is Purpose.  Now that I’ve finally created my very 1st vision board,  my path is so much clearer, (and it scares the crap out of me). So, this year is about truly walking in purpose, on purpose, and with purpose. And my theme is Choose To Dance (You know, because if I get the choice to sit it out or dance, I’m going to dance).

Enough about me! Tell me my friend, what have you been up to and where are you headed in 2014?